The Comparison Trap

Most people don’t lose confidence because they lack talent. They lose confidence because they keep measuring themselves against someone else.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the comparison trap at work and how quietly destructive it can become.

It shows up at every level: early career professionals, senior executives, athletes, leaders of all types. Comparison can be productive when it helps us learn.

But it becomes dangerous when it convinces us that we’re behind, don’t belong here, or are somehow not enough.

A few weeks ago, the University of Minnesota women’s gymnastics team made history. After trailing in the Top 20 throughout much of the season, these women reached the NCAA Final Four, finished #4 in the nation, and won the individual Beam title (!!).

To get there, in the Final 8 they competed against powerhouse programs stacked with Olympians: Oklahoma. LSU. UCLA. Florida, and more.

Programs with deeper histories, larger recruiting pipelines, and decades of dominance.

It would have been easy for Minnesota to walk into that environment already defeated psychologically.

But they didn’t try to become those programs. Instead, they focused on execution, consistency, trust, and internal belief.

Coach Jenny Hansen described the mindset simply: “Just being us, knowing that we belonged here.”

That line stayed with me.

Because the teams — and professionals — who perform at the highest level are often not the ones obsessing over everyone around them.

They are the ones grounded enough to stay connected to who they are, what they do well, and how they execute under pressure.

Comparison becomes costly when it pulls us out of alignment with our own strengths.

Minnesota didn’t let rankings, reputation, or projections define their ceiling.

There’s probably a lesson in that for all of us at work — especially in environments where it’s easy to confuse someone else’s success with our own inadequacy.

🏅 Anyone else think there’s something we can learn from this Gophers team?

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The Story Behind the Logo

I’m so glad you clicked on the logo. It tells a story, and it’s one I’m pretty passionate about. I’m a big believer in being grounded in the Earth while staying connected to something bigger than ourselves. I believe we are each part of something greater, and that every one of us carries our own unique gifts, strengths, and special magic.
That belief is at the heart of this logo. Look closely and you’ll see roots grounding to the Earth. They represent where we begin: grounded, connected, and rooted in who we are. And at the center, you’ll find a compass. Because I believe we each have an internal compass. It points toward who we are, what matters to us, and where we want to go. And inside that compass is gold. That gold represents the special magic I believe every one of us carries within.
Sometimes we know exactly what our gold is. Sometimes the demands of work and life, the expectations we carry, and the pressure-filled worlds we navigate can slowly pull us away from it. My coaching is about helping people find that gold again, understand it, and put it to work. Because finding your gold is only the beginning. As we reconnect with ourselves, we grow, stretch, and evolve. New possibilities emerge. Stay grounded. Find your compass. Discover your gold. Let yourself grow. Embrace what makes you unique. And remember that you are part of something bigger. That is the spirit behind Compass Within Collective.